Sunday, May 17, 2009

Journaling Presentation

I gave a short presentation today to the youth group of Claremont UMC about journaling. What follows is a rough outline of the presentation I gave today.

Give yourself maybe 10 minutes and quickly do the following exercises:

1. What did you have for lunch this week?
2. What do you feel about the last thing you did today?

Well my friends, Congratulations! Just in writing answers to those questions you have brought some healing to your life. Yes, even just listing what you had for lunch this week can be therapeutic, especially because it makes you use your memory. While the more personal the journaling the greater the therapeutic benefit, research has shown that the simplest of journaling is still therapeutic.

I started journaling 10 years ago when my mother gave me a gratitude journal (it was the book of the month from Oprah). I have been journaling with varying consistency ever since. At some point during my time at Christian Theological Seminary I noticed that I was far more consistent in my journaling during times when I was super stressed or super happy. When I started having great success with the clients I was counseling who were journaling, I decided to look at the role of journaling in the healing process. My master's thesis was entitled "Journaling and the art of self care". Through the research for and writing of the thesis I came up with a theory of how journaling works...

How journaling works:
1. Honestly, no one is entirely sure. What we can see, or measure, of course, is self ratings of happiness/contentment.
2. In other words, people report that they feel better, do better work, have better friendships, etc after they journal. People say that journaling is helpful in the following ways
a. clears head
b. not bottling - emotional release
c. helps rationalize
d. or the exact opposite, I don't have to be rational when I journal
3. My understanding of what happens/why journaling is beneficial is two fold ...
a. There seems to be multiple parts to the self. One might even say that I am made up of multiple selves. I am my Godself, my school self, my family self, my friend self, what other selves can you think of? I believe the acts of writing/creativity and reading/seeing what is created bring the different parts of the self together into a cohesive oneness. It might be that I choose to write with my school self, but it is my friend self who will do the reading of what I wrote. It is the bringing together of these different parts that leads to healing. It is almost as though through journaling we learn a little more about ourselves AND through learning about ourselves we learn to silence our inner critic that is negative thus we learn to like ourselves better.
b. Connected to learning to like yourself is the saying "Love your neighbor as thyself".
- we have to first learn to love ourselves and to do that we have to learn about ourselves ... learning how we journal, what we journal about, etc help us learn who we are and thus how we can love ourselves better - once we know that we can learn to love others better

Have you ever tried to journal or keep a diary in the past? Why have you stopped if you've stopped? What has kept you from trying if you've never started?

Here are a few of the excuses I have heard before ...

Excuses for not journaling.

1. no time/too time consuming
2. hate to hand write
3. don't want someone else to read it
4. don't want to face the emotions - too exhausting to face what I might write

Why the excuses should be overcome. (the numbers correspond to the above excuses)
1. much like exercise, the therapeutic gains are too much and help with so many facets of life to let time be an excuse - and it doesn't have to take much time ...
2. if you don't like to hand write find another outlet, draw, color, use the computer and type it
3. you can password protect your files if you put them on the computer, hide or lock journals ... also research shows no decline in the therapeutic benefit of journaling if you share your work with others
4. the only thing worse than being exhausted from facing emotion is to bottle up your feelings

I encourage you to start journaling. To help you get started, here is a list of different ways journaling can be done. This is a non-exhaustive list and I would love to hear your ideas about journaling.

1. drawing
2. reading scripture
3. other book and writing about it
4. Dear Diary/Journal/God ... my day ...
5. Gratitude list
6. I feel ...
7. exercise and food journal
8. to do list - be sure to cross off what you've done for added therapeutic benefit
9. write poetry
10. finding a book on journaling and doing what it says - Dan do you know if the church library might have such a book? If not, I'm sure the public library does.
11. art - collage, painting, etc.
12. travel journal
13. online blog
14. online journal
15. word vomit - set a page limit and then just write until you fill up the space
16. decision journal

3 comments:

  1. Thanks Megan for leading us in this exercise! Best case scenario.....I start journaling. Love ya! -dan.

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  2. Interesting perspectives here, as always! With journaling, I never considered the benefits of "just using your memory." Now that I think about it, it makes perfect sense.

    Man survives by forgetting the bad, for obvious reasons, but perhaps even the good if it is scarce enough. Either way, time passes beneath one's notice, never allowing the chance to look oneself in the mirror with surety.

    If I'm getting this right, then journaling is a good first step to actually facing yourself.

    I love your multiple selves thing! I can't agree more, that a self is the nexus of its extensions. Knowing yourself must necessarily mean exploring each facet in earnest, hence journaling?

    But that makes me wonder. There are all the Miles' that are within me, but what about the Miles' that exist in others' minds? How others perceive me, and so how I project myself to others, also seems crucial to getting the full picture. How can a self-oriented journaling method help with 'the others?'

    One last point.. are you sure journaling would lead to "silencing our inner critic?" Frankly, I'd think the opposite. But then maybe things are meant to get worse before it gets better?

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  3. Miles,

    I'm so glad that you've found something in this presentation that you liked. You are absolutely right that journaling can be a first step (and I would say a huge step) to facing one's self.

    Here are my thoughts:

    When it comes to the selves that are in other people, you have almost no control over those. I say almost because we always have some control - example: if we're overtly mean that will probably come across as such. However, that is not always the case. Therefore, I'm not sure how much journaling will help you much with "the other". Although, if you think of introducing "yourself" to "yourself" (because of the multiple selves) you might be able to start to imagine how you come across to others. In this way you might be able to work on how you project yourself into others. No matter what, though, after your projection the "other" will do with it as he or she pleases and you have to remember you have no control over his/her free will. You have influence, but influence is not direct power.

    As for your last point ... I think there is just enough selfishness programed into the human psyche (group of selves) to ensure that the inner critic will be eventually silenced. Now, by inner critic, I mean that part of the selves that is self-deprecating in ways that lead to self-sabotaging, depression, etc. A little self-criticism is probably healthy. A lot of self-criticism, especially located on one aspect of the self is usually damaging. By getting to know yourself better through journaling you'll learn to have more empathy for yourself and thus you'll treat yourself more kindly.

    However, you do have a good point - things often do get worse before they get better AND the act of learning about the selves can be fairly painful before it becomes truly beautiful.

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